It can be heartbreaking. Watching someone with whom you shared something so intimate slowly (or near instantly in some cases) transform into a complete stranger. Warmth, compassion and conspiracy are torn away in a gust of brutal indifference, leaving only the barren and swept trail of what-once-was. But is this new-found cold and distance a… Continue reading
Most dumpers will regret something about their old flames. There really is always something to miss, even if the breakup was as dramatic as it was determined. The real question is whether whatever amorous residue is left is enough to warrant another emotional leap of faith, and if there still is a spark, what our… Continue reading
Separating reality from wishful thinking is notoriously difficult after a breakup. Are contact crumbs a sign your ex is thinking about coming back to you? Or are we letting our insecurity over-complicate the situation? In short, are we setting ourselves up for more rejection and pain? Ultimately there are never any guarantees. But that doesn’t… Continue reading
Perhaps it happened due to stress, perhaps they did the unforgivable, or perhaps you simply underestimated what your emotional reaction would be. Whatever the case may be, they are now gone — and they have taken your peace of mind with them. Don’t Trust Trauma No matter how unhealthy a relationship was, the act of… Continue reading
Breakup trauma is often a potent catalyst for change, and chances are that the deep well of emotional silence that follows separation has caused you to become objective about aspects of the relationship that you initially took for granted. Should change have realistically occurred (and you aren’t simply attempting to manipulate interest in order to… Continue reading
Breaking up is never easy, and even though the dumper is often labeled as a heartless betrayer of dreams, chances are calling it quits with a text message is a way of attempting to minimize pain, not make it worse. If your intention is that of making the breakup as easy as possible, both for… Continue reading
One of the most confusing aspects of an emotional post-breakup apocalypse is the advent of a dumper who seems hellbent on maintaining a platonic connection, despite subtly (or not so subtly) resisting the idea of reconciliation. What’s going on here? Or perhaps more aptly, what gives? If you’re asking yourself what their intentions are, or… Continue reading
Going “no contact” after a breakup is never as simple as it seems. Abruptly cutting communication and depriving ourselves (and our exs) of the routine of each others presence will usually catalyze the need to talk rather than diminish it. At least in the short-term. But before you dive head-first into an awkward oh-hey-its-me conversation… Continue reading
Crunch. Did you hear that? That’s the sound of his ego being shattered. As blunt as it sounds, the vast majority of guilt-trips stem from an ex attempting to reconcile his self-image with his wavering sense of self-worth. In a sense, then, it is less about his ability to manipulate you, than it is about… Continue reading