What initially starts as a cute tendency to be affectionate can often lead to a nightmare as the relationship matures. If we fail to erect walls that safeguard our individuality early, we risk losing touch with what makes us tick as people, and consequently, the relationship will stale. Not only this, but there’s a passive… Continue reading
I find that third-party advice is almost always the same when it comes to dealing with adversity in relationships. Stand your ground and dictate your terms. Try and communicate objectively and calmly. Don’t feel guilty about putting your needs first (for a change?). Offer constructive criticism rather than an ultimatum. Okay. Admittedly this is all… Continue reading
It’s crunch time, and the narrow road of our previous life has reached a crossroads. A crossroads, I might add, with an infinite amount of intersections. It can be overwhelming. So what now? #1 Erect Strong Boundaries It isn’t arrogant to define how we choose to be treated in the wake of a breakup. If… Continue reading
Welcome to the post-breakup wasteland, where nothing is quite as it seems and intentions are masked with layers of emotional camouflage. This article is my attempt at punching through the fragile defenses of several typical mind games. As always, if nothing else, I hope this serves as food for thought. On with the show! 1…. Continue reading
I give you my hand-picked selection of bad breakup advice. And yes, I’ve been dying to write this one. 1. “Snap out of It” Alright, perhaps even Wim Hoff would have trouble with exercising this amount of control over his autonomic nervous system. And yes, it’s called autonomic for a reason, and that reason is… Continue reading
The only thing we can claim with certainty when an ex contacts us is that they were thinking about us. As far as certainties go, that’s pretty much it. Granted, this isn’t at all what we’re after. We want to find out what their intention is, along with how much hope, dignity and fragility we’re… Continue reading
First off, I’m absolutely not trying to appeal to the lowest common denominator here, and this article isn’t aimed at feeding false hope or denial, just to temporarily make us feel better about our breakup. Just to be clear: Just because they miss you doesn’t mean you’ll ever know about it (there are many variables… Continue reading
I spend a lot of my time reading what other bloggers have to say about relationships, not only is it a topic that genuinely interests me, but it is also a fantastic way for me to crystallize my own thoughts before committing them to “paper”. The downside to this vast cosmos of personal relationship experiences… Continue reading
The problem with dealing with the majority of trust issues is that they stem from personal insecurity that predates the relationship. Past experiences can mold our character defensively in ways that can confuse our partners, and lead to distancing. In some cases, we may not even be aware that we are pushing our partners away… Continue reading