All relationships are, to some extent, addictive. Almost every (it isn’t always the case) dumpee I have spoken too has admitted that despite the trauma and pain caused by the relationship breakup, they know their relationship had dwindled into something unhealthy and patently unhappy for all involved.
Despite this, and despite the fact that they may wish to move on entirely, they feel caught in a web of emotions that are dependent on the actions and thoughts of others. Even when they caress the thought of once more being in control, all it takes is a smile, a rumor, or fleeting (crumbs) contact to send a dumpee into a renewed spiral of pain and mental anguish.
Beginning to find peace is not a question of closure and it most certainly does not require reconciliation. Release requires a tremendous amount of self-discipline. Instead of scouring the web for articles that may offer you an umbrella while a category five storm threatens to drown you, let’s draw an objective line and do what needs to be done to salvage your strength, dignity and health.