Whether you’re feeling happy and liberated, or alone and attempting to make the best of your situation, you can’t go wrong with these hand-picked testaments to the joy of singledom! From the light-hearted to the profound, all the way to the painful (and back again). I have done my best to encapsulate what I find to be the real virtues of being single (and not the last vestiges of my manic denial).
As always, if anyone knows of a poem or quote that fits the bill, and should be on the list, please feel free to let me know in the comments section and I’ll be sure to add it to the article. And now — without further ado, some poems, snippets and quotes to remember the virtues of putting oneself first.
Quotes On Putting Yourself First
If you aren’t happy being single you will never be happy in a relationship. Get your own life and love it first, then share it. – Anonymous.
As mentioned ad nauseum in many of my articles, being single is ironically — in my mind — the cleanest way to achieve a semblance of completeness. Coping and ultimately thriving alone demolishes fears and dependencies, allowing you to become more attractive, productive and ushers-in a new era of your choosing, where what you keep in your life is not there out of need, but because of choice.
I don’t need a man to rectify my existence. The most profound relationship we’ll ever have is the one with ourselves. – Shirley MacLaine.
I wouldn’t consider this to be a gender specific quote, it certainly makes equal sense for men. Everything we have can be taken away, and while this fragility can be spicy and exciting, the only person who is guaranteed to be there forever is you.
Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else. – Judy Garland
If you’re anything like me, once the initial self-esteem and confidence dump begins to wear away after a rough breakup, the beginning of a personal enlightenment begins. The realization of how much of our own time, energy and character we had chosen to amputate in order to keep the wheel turning. It seems Judy Garland is inclined to agree!
Poems On Loss And Acceptance
There is something about this famous poem that displays the destructive friction between acceptance and denial in all it’s confusing glory. While Elizabeth manifests strength, the fragility of the last stanza shows that it comes at a cost, and that not all is as it seems. Despite the human and shaky ending, I include it on this article because I do feel it contains a striking truth. Having the will to lose and rebuild is paramount to long-lasting growth — and perhaps even happiness.
The art of losing isn’t hard to master;
so many things seem filled with the intent
to be lost that their loss is no disaster.Lose something every day. Accept the fluster
of lost door keys, the hour badly spent.
The art of losing isn’t hard to master.Then practice losing farther, losing faster:
places, and names, and where it was you meant
to travel. None of these will bring disaster.I lost my mother’s watch. And look! my last, or
next-to-last, of three loved houses went.
The art of losing isn’t hard to master.I lost two cities, lovely ones. And, vaster,
some realms I owned, two rivers, a continent.
I miss them, but it wasn’t a disaster.
Even losing you (the joking voice, a gesture
I love) I shan’t have lied. It’s evident
the art of losing’s not too hard to master
though it may look like (Write it!) like disaster.One Art – Elizabeth Bishop
How is your heart by Charles Bukwoski is another endearing testament to growth through experience. The sharp, gritty nature of the poem itself may appeal to those who prefer directness to evocation.
during my worst times
on the park benches
in the jails
or living with
I always had this certain
I wouldn’t call it
it was more of an inner
that settled for
whatever was occuring
and it helped in the
and when relationships
wars and the
the backalley fights
to awaken in a cheap room
in a strange city and
pull up the shade-
this was the craziest kind of
contentmentand to walk across the floor
to an old dresser with a
see myself, ugly,
grinning at it all.
what matters most is
how well you
walk through the
On Having Fun
Not all of us feel that we’re cut out for solitude. Others have a hard timing not being independent. Whatever the case may be, being single entails certain exclusive fun privileges. Here is my selection of quotes that encapsulate the idea!
I’m single because I was born that way. – Mae West
Simple and true. It bears remembering that being single is natural, and not an oubliette or punishment.
Being single is pretty good. It’s a nice sense of irresponsibility. – Michael Douglas
He knows what he’s talking about!
All those tears i cried over you were enough to make a pool, i hope you damn drown in that pool – Anonymous
Guess what? Breaking up affords us some leeway, we are able to vent our anger without looking weird. We might as well enjoy our irresponsibility license while we have it!