Objective truths will almost always pale before the insistence and irrationally traumatic thoughts that mark the end of relationship. Having said that, however, it can steer one away from too much introspectiveness and doubt and help to heal a broken heart with time. To mark a personal breakup memento, I thought I’d scour the web and my memories for break up quotations which make a great deal of sense to me, and have helped me move forward. Maybe they’ll have the same effect on you, as they did me — here’s to hoping!
“You have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again.” – unknown
Ironically, I’m going to begin this article with a quote I like the least, but is often quoted. Ultimately, forgiveness is a admirable and wise course of action
because it absolves feelings of self-loathing and obsession. Clinging to anger, and trying desperately to follow a meandering filament towards closure only leads to more let downs. My issue with this quote lies in that fact that forgetting grievances is allegedly a necessary path towards moving on. I beg to differ!
I’m of the firm opinion that everything teaches us something, most often about ourselves. Forgetting someone or a relationship is likely to lead you on an express elevator to hell — where you commit the same foul ups you committed the first time. In order to clarify what we want, from ourselves and others, we need to remember.
Sadness flies away on the wings of time. –Jean de La Fontaine
I adore the conciseness of this quote. It is at once poetic and true. Time will dull aches and heal hearts, and it won’t ask for your permission to do so. I find it comforting that whether it be tomorrow or a decade from now, sadness and depression stemming from a breakup will passively be cured.
Maybe part of loving is learning to let go. –The Wonder Years
The way I see it, there’s no way about it. Love — in it’s purest form — is entirely selfless. If you were dumped consider it a sign that the person that you profess to love dearly has had enough, for whatever reason. What better way to show your love than to let them go? As I strenuously argued in another article of mine about dealing with rejection, I feel that the pain of actual separation in most relationships is less keen than the damage to our egos (obviously not in all of them).
“Every happy couple has at least one breakup behind them.”
A common truism I find to be almost universally true. Coupled with your actions dictated in the previous quote, who could possible deny you?
“Have patience with all things, but chiefly have patience with yourself. Do not lose courage in considering your own imperfections but instantly set about remedying them — every day begin the task anew.” – Saint Francis de Sales
Developing a schedule and being proactive (as well as realistic) about your breakup predicament are key to a swift recovery. Mr de Sales proposes patience and constructive introspection as a remedy to heartbreak — and I wholeheartedly agree! Setting small manageable tasks for yourself will give you a steady stream of self-accomplishment which will go a long way in rebuilding self-esteem.
“A pearl is a beautiful thing that is produced by an injured life. It is the tear [that results] from the injury of the oyster. The treasure of our being in this world is also produced by an injured life. If we had not been wounded, if we had not been injured, then we will not produce the pearl.” – Stephan Hoeller
What doesn’t kill us only makes us stronger (or bitter!). I like the view that it is our vulnerability that allows us to progress rather than our downfall. Our pain is a catalyst of change. If we strive to take every fall a chance to improve ourselves, there is very little in life that will threaten our composure or dampen our optimism!
“The greatest degree of inner tranquility comes from the development of love and compassion. The more we care for the happiness of others, the greater is our own sense of well-being.” – Tenzin Gyatso
Rejoice in the fact that the greater the pain, the greater your ability to love. It takes courage to expose our vulnerabilities and take risks with our heart — pride yourself on having it in you to risk losing what many spend their lives running from!